Hungry for the “How”
We are all hungry for the “how.”
We want it desperately.
A list of the exact steps we need to take to get the thing that we want.
Raise your hand if you’ve ever been victimized by negative feedback.
Survival School for Associates
Being A Team Player
Early on in my career, I strived to be a team player. That descriptor was regularly part of the positive reviews I got.
As I got more senior, I valued working with more junior people I considered team players. It was regularly part of the positive reviews I gave.
Getting and Managing Feedback
The associate experience often includes a lack of any meaningful feedback. I know this can be frustrating.
A reminder about growth.
Growth is not linear.
Growth can look like a crawl or an inch or a scoot or a skosh rather than a step.
Wait, wait, wait… How did I get here?
It’s not unusual to get to a point where you realize your job or career is just happening to you.
You’ve had your head down, working hard, just trying to make it through the days and weeks. And then…
To ask or not to ask.
That is the question. (Or at least it often is if you’re a newer lawyer).
It can feel scary to ask questions of people more senior than you. No matter what the question is.
Don’t underestimate the power of the “small” decisions.
We all love to make these big ambitious goals. We love to focus on (and sometimes fret about) the big life changing decisions.
But the wins start in the decisions to do one (seemingly) small thing differently.
Your brain is the worst crystal ball.
At least it is when you’re catastrophizing about the worst case scenario. Because that is the only scenario it is showing you. You look into the future, and all you see are the bad things that could happen.
Anxiety vs. Intuition?
I used to confuse my anxiety with intuition all the time.
But anxiety and intuition are not the same.
The New Anxiety Dream: Hosting Webinars in My Robe
Goodbye anxiety dreams about not being able to find my locker or my classroom and showing up for that test not knowing I had one - hello anxiety dreams about hosting webinars!
Productivity Mindset
Most high-achieving women have a productivity mindset (because we are taught to have one). Especially women lawyers.
“I’m not doing enough” is a subjective thought - not a fact.
“I’m not doing enough.”
This thought pops into my head a lot.
What would change if you got drastically better at managing your time?
I know you want to be better at managing your time.
Tip for Stopping the Worst Case Scenario Spin
If you’re prone to catastrophizing (spinning out in the worst case scenario), “just think positive” is useless advice.
When Other People Disrespect Your Time
This thought pattern REALLY isn’t helping you: “They are disrespecting my time.”
Beyond the Binary Thinking: Paradox Mindset
A question I’m always pondering for myself and my clients: Where can we cultivate a paradox mindset?
Lion or Email? (Probably just an email)
Ever felt like your mind's default setting is “worst-case scenario”? Same here.
The Joy of Missing Out
I get a small burst of joy when people cancel things. Even things I was looking forward to. I rarely experience disappointment or annoyance, and if I do, they are very temporary.