When I knew there was a goal I had to meet - like exams or a paper or the bar - I would overwork myself for weeks or months to meet the goal. Then crash.

I won’t pretend that your boss, manager, supervisor, colleague, or client is going to love it when you say “no.” Especially if they are used to you saying “yes” all the time.

They might not. Some definitely won’t. 

They don’t always work. In fact, they rarely work. Not on the big stuff at least. Those limiting beliefs you’ve had for a very long time.

How many times have you come up with a long list of all the things you want to change about your life? 

Change about you?

We ignore what we want, because we don't think we can have it. And so we don't allow ourselves to want it. But when you don't allow yourself to want something, your brain can't figure out how to get it.

I bet there was a time where you were good at saying “no.”

Where “no” was a complete sentence.

Not the partner you are working for. Not your clients. Not the notification on your email inbox. Not the ringing of your phone.

Procrastination is a totally normal human behavior. But procrastination often gets in the way of us managing our calendars and to-do lists the way that we want. So you might want to do less of it.

If so, you’ve got to understand what’s happening in your head and how to shift it.

Practice does not make perfect. Practice makes progress.

Seems obvious I know.

But deep down, so many women I know are still hoping that perfect exists. If they just try hard enough. Or if they were just trying harder. 

The gap between “should” and reality is where so much of our negative emotion lives.

Frustration. Resentment. Sadness. Guilt. Shame. Self-righteousness. Embarrassment. Anger. Annoyance. Disappointment.

If you delegate work, and you don't get what you want back as work product, try starting by assuming that you are part of the problem. 

One thing I see people struggle with when they start to delegate is that they subconsciously expect people to work the same way that they do or subconsciously expect them to be a mind reader. 

Hi associates—

Partners are inevitably going to ask you to do things that they could have easily done themselves.

And let's be honest… you’re probably going to do them.

(It’s always an option not to, of course, but I’m guessing that’s not the option you’re going to choose.).

So you have one of two alternatives.

6 things to keep in mind when you’re worried or ruminating about what someone else thinks about you:

Mistakes can either add to your confidence or detract from it. 

The difference is in the way you talk to yourself about them.

Attn: Associates and Incoming Associates

Law school does not teach you the soft skills you need to survive being an associate.

It doesn’t teach you…

If you had to pick THE thing that has gotten you to where you are – that has contributed to your success, what would it be?

Did you say hard work?

What if you believed with every fiber of your being that the Sunday Scaries were 100% inevitable? 

That no matter how much you loved your job, it was just a fact of life that on some Sundays you have to feel some anxiety or dread about Monday.

How would that impact your experience of the Sunday Scaries?

Hear me out.

A to-do list is supposed to be helpful. Not something you create, and then use against yourself.

Here’s how I see it going:

Busy isn’t a state of being. It’s a mindset.

Typically, the more busy you think you are and the more often you think about how busy you are, the busier your mind gets.

And the more overwhelmed, anxious, and or stressed you feel.

And the less capable you are of constraining, pulling back, focusing, being productive, or relaxing.

We love to promise ourselves that next week or next month will be different.

If we just make it though this one case, deadline, project, trip, or busy spell, things will be different.