A PSA.

Many women turn to self help, personal development, and coaching because they think they need to be fixed.

And if they were just fixed - they would be allowed to love themselves.

It makes sense that we think this.

Women are socialized in so many ways to believe that something is inherently wrong with them (e.g., our feelings are irrelevant or too much, our thoughts and ideas are inferior, we need to look to authority outside of ourselves, our bodies are dangerous or the way they look is what gives you value - I could go on and on).

So often, when women turn to personal development, it is from a place of believing they need to be fixed. That they need to be better.

You do not need to be “fixed.”

You do not need to be “better.”

You do not need to change a thing about yourself.

You are fundamentally worthy exactly as you are.

BUT.

What you might WANT more of in your life is self-acceptance.

Self-compassion.

Self-love.

Self-care. 

Self-trust.

But not in the way it’s often being sold to you now.

As just another thing you NEED to add to your plate that you currently aren’t doing or aren’t good enough at.

And not because any of those things will then allow you to “fix” yourself.

Not because any of those things will allow you to opt out of the full human experience and the panoply of emotion that comes with it.

Not so that you will never think another negative thought about yourself.

Not so that you will love everything you do and think you are perfect.

Not so you can give more to others.

Not so that you can be more productive.

Just because it feels better than the way you are currently feeling.

And that’s a good enough reason.